I watched a movie called The Vow today as a result of a recommendation from my friend. It's your average chick flick but with a lot of life lessons integrated in it. I must admit, I expected something light-hearted just to pass the time. Instead, it left me stunned on how good the movie actually was to me.
And in the first time in a long time, this movie made me cry.
For a while now, I have kind of forced myself not to think about everything except for school work (of course..) but this movie opened up the wounds that I was trying so hard to heal. Nevertheless, I still loved it.
Spoiler alert! In the movie - the main character, Paige - ran away from home after finding out of his father's affair with her best friend. She was also appalled knowing that her mother didn't leave her husband because of it. Paige then confronted her about it and her mother's argument follows, "I chose to stay with him for all the things he has done right and not to leave him for the one thing he had done wrong."Our past might define us and maybe so will our choices. As human beings, that we all are (hopefully), we find it so much easier to count the wrongs no matter how many rights there are. People just can't be judged purely on their mistakes. Which brings me to the next quote from the film:
"When you truly care for someone, their mistakes never change your feelings because it's the mind that gets angry but the heart still cares."
This quote my fellow bloggers, has summed up my life (so far) perfectly. I might have just become a broken record going on and on about a certain someone but no matter how hard I try to shake it out, it's always going to be there. One thing I don't want is for it to haunt me forever and with the pace I'm going, I'm not doing so well. I guess this is the perfect time to use that popular saying, "love is blind". Whether it's family or a significant other, your judgement of that person is going to be forever biased. You can never see the flaw in them simply because you have created this perfect version of that person. To see something as small as a papercut for an imperfection is unacceptable and so our hearts believe in the imagination that we have fabricated to block out what's real and replace it with what's not. And when that person does a wrong, you'll always find a way to forgive them because they are that important not to lose.
Not just about mistakes, but everything else, shouldn't be a reason for anyone to drive away. Whether it's someone's past or even secrets.. If you truly cared, it shouldn't make anyone run for the hills. In my case, I've cared for so long that anything shocking to hear isn't going to push me away. And that person should've known better - should've known my reaction or unreaction, I shall say. Despite what's happened, I would still expect much more from this person. I guess my expectations was higher than it should be. But with this fact, I know I can finally put this where it belongs - my past.
Anyhoo, what's a movie review without a little personal experience? In the end, *Spoiler alert again!* Paige doesn't get her memory back after the car crash and her husband, Leo is forced to accept the fact that his wife cannot recall the memories they had together. But look at it this way: he can put it behind him and make new ones. The Vow just taught me the simple message on how to live. Live a little. It doesn't matter about how many mistakes you've done because in the end, who's counting them?
