Sometimes I tell people "I'm fine" and they don't believe me. Why not?
ANSWER: Approximately 20% of your ability to communicate is verbal, leaving about 80% as non-verbal. Non-verbal communication includes tone of voice as wellas facial and body signals. When our verbal and non-verbal signs do not match, most people will respond to the non-verbal. So when you lie, most people can see it.
Believe it or not, an average person tells 4 lies a day or 1460 a year; a total of 87,600 by the ago of 60. And the most common lie is: "I'm fine".
It sucks that people can see right through your facade just by saying those two wrong words. Why do we do that to ourselves? Lie through our teeth even though you're already caught bluffing? I'm guessing it's a reassuring thing to do for most of us - when we say things are fine when it isn't, it will be fine.
I guess we can't really fool the people we love, simply because they pay attention to us and we pay attention to them. No matter how much you really want to push people away, no one really wants to deal on their own. They're only looking out for you. Sometimes, it's just so much better to open up and tell them how you really are - there really is no use misleading them. Someday somehow, we'll look back at all the times we were asked if we're okay and regret ever saying "I'm fine."
Till the end of GCSE's,
xo, Suka
